A client asked me this past week why people come to me for therapy. It was a great question. In the culture I grew up in, you only went to a therapist if you were “crazy,” so of course hardly anyone sought out help unless they were experiencing a severe mental health crisis. You were also served platitudes, such as, “You need to suck it up,” or “Get it together.” Sound familiar?
What a price has been paid by so many people who have grappled alone with functioning in the world – because of their own misunderstood struggles, or the dysfunction of partners or family units.
Today, I’m happy we’ve come so far and therapy has become another important resource for people to draw from on this journey we call life. In my experience, here are my “Top Reasons for Therapy” and why I’m so honored to work with the courageous souls who seek me out.
- To make a change
- To address an emotional issue like anger, anxiety, sadness, depression, loneliness, shame
- To address a physical issue that has emotional impact (what one doesn’t)
- To resolve trauma (seemingly “small” – or “significant”; note, all trauma affects us)
- To address an addiction or disorder that is getting in the way of relationships and life goals
- To work though limiting beliefs and unhelpful ways of thinking
- To learn to express emotions
- To learn to communicate in ways that maintain connection with others, especially during conflict
- To work through a mental block
- To address phobias or release fear of something
- Spiritual incongruence
- Lack of meaning in life
- Lack of a sense of belonging
- Support for a quest of some kind that has been ignited
- To understand a sense of incompleteness
- To address a desire to live life more fully and understand what that means
- To learn self acceptance
- To learn self forgiveness
- To identify co-dependent patterns and understand healthy boundaries
- To process loss
- Help with a life transition (geographic moves, careers, relationships, life stages)
- Help to support the process of aging
- A safe space to support the dying process (self and others)
- A sense of being “lost”
Of course, many of the above issues are multi-dimensional and overlap. Perhaps some of them resonate for you. Whatever you’re struggling with or want to further develop within yourself, I hope you’ll consider finding a therapist who can support you to create the change you deserve.